Dimension
Connection
Communication is not what you send. It is what lands. Connection is the only dimension measured entirely by what happens in somebody else, which is why it is the last one people look at.
When it breaks
Technically excellent speakers wonder why perfect words changed nothing. The room agreed and nothing followed.
Sounds like It was a good talk and nothing happened afterwards.
Usually mistaken for Likeability. People try to be warmer, when the failure is usually that they never found out what the other person was actually holding.
The sub-dimensions
Connection is not one thing. It is 5, and a prescription aimed at the wrong one inside the right dimension fails in a way that is very hard to see, because the dimension was correct.
Attention
Where yours is while you speak.
It is on your own performance. Attention pointed inward cannot read the room it is in.
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Reading
What you notice in them, live.
The signals are there and unread, so nothing is adjusted while there is still time to adjust it.
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Relevance
Whether it is framed in their terms.
It is said in your nouns rather than theirs, so it is understood and not felt.
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Exchange
Whether the thing stays alive between two people.
Each turn closes rather than opens. Answers are complete, and a complete answer ends a conversation.
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Consequence
Whether anything is different afterwards.
Agreement in the room, nothing outside it. Agreement is cheap and is not the measure.
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What corrects it
Reading the sub-dimension you recognise is the beginning of it and not the work. What corrects a break is practice aimed at that break, in an order, at a dose, checked against what actually happens in a room. That sequence is the Connection Gym, and how the sequence is run is the five steps.
Which of the 5 is yours is not something this page can tell you, and neither can you. It is named at The Diagnosis, along with which of the four gaps it is, and everything after reads from that one result.
Ten minutes of questions, and a report showing where your own answers point.
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