Feedback
Behaviour and impact
Give feedback about a behaviour and its consequence, not a character.
The gapFeedback that describes a person rather than a thing they did.
When to use it
Any correction that matters.
The steps
- Identify the behaviour.
- Describe it neutrally.
- Explain its observable impact.
- State the alternative you want.
- Let them respond.
- Clarify if it is needed.
- Use the shape: when you answered before I finished the question, the response addressed only part of what I was asking. I would like you to take a moment before responding.
You know it worked when
The feedback is actionable and is not an attack.
What else it works, and why
- Intent
- You have to communicate why the behaviour matters.
- Connection
- The whole exchange is about one person's effect on another.
Which drill is yours, in what order and at what dose, is not something a page can tell you. That is what a Discovery Call is for.
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