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The frameworks

Listening

Hear, interpret, clarify

Keep what was said separate from what you concluded about it.

Connection · Capability framework · No. 30

The problem it addresses

People treat their interpretation as though it were the other person's statement, and then respond to it.

The shape

  1. Hear
  2. Interpret
  3. Identify the uncertainty
  4. Clarify

Why that order

It interrupts an assumption before the assumption becomes a conflict, which is where most of these end up.

A worked example

They say the proposal is not ready.

Instead ofThey do not like my proposal.

When you say it is not ready, do you mean the analysis needs more work, or that the recommendation itself needs to change?

What usually goes wrong

Asking for clarification when the meaning is already plain, which reads as either inattention or evasion.

Mostly serves Connection, and reaches into Message.

A framework tells you what shape the answer takes. It cannot tell you whether shape is what you are short of, and for most people it is not. Which one is yours, and whether a framework is the right instrument at all, is what a Discovery Call is for.

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